All about Pumping

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I used to hate pumping until I learned more about it. As I’ve said before, mad love to the women that are exclusive pumpers, it is no joke. I’m doing my pumping segments in a Q&A style based on the frequently asked questions that I get asked by friends and other moms!

First and foremost, I’m not an expert (yet). These are all just opinions based on my experience. 

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Tips and Tricks for Pumping at Work

I talked a lot about pumping in Part 3 but this post is obviously meant for pumping at work. As I will always state, this is all based off of my experience and I just want to share that!

I’m extremely fortunate to be a Mom/Baby RN. This makes pumping at work almost a completely normal act. My co-workers understand and so do my patients! It can be difficult to time it out exactly but I’ve learned a few tips and tricks to make it work. Here are my tips for successful pumping at work!

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Lemonade & Life

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“You know that bitch when you cause all this conversation.” – Beyonce

I absolutely love how one woman can make so many people feel so many things.
When Lemonade came out, a lot of people were excited and a handful of people started spouting out things like, “there’s more important things in the world than a Beyonce album”.
Yes, I admit. There are a lot of important things in the world but we must give credit where credit is due.

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Lemonade is an amazing visual album. The end. 

I was never a hardcore Beyhive member. Shoot, I wouldn’t even pay more than 150 dollars to see her in concert. I’ve always thought she was cool and beautiful and fun but she was just another person releasing catchy pop songs. Until now.

If you disagree that Lemonade is a good album, I need to understand why… so please, please, please comment below.

A lot of criticisms that I’ve heard thus far are about her flawed relationship with Jay-Z, her use of the phrase “Becky with the good hair” and how it’s “tacky” and an anti-feminist message for a woman to sing (“whine”) about her man.

The eye-rolling is real right now. (I’m about to rant and not even proof read this before I publish it, haha. Just letting you know!)

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  1. It’s not solely about her relationship with Jay-Z. It’s about her relationships, period. Her relationship with her husband, her father, herself, and her culture are all being analyzed. With Jay-Z, she’s trying to understand how to mend what is broken. I can’t really say anything about her father except for the fact that fathers play such a significant role in choosing a suitor. She gets that too, I think. She’s trying to learn to love herself and in that love, she is finding solace in sisterhood and her culture.
  2. Why are people so up in arms about “Becky with the good hair”? First off, when has the word “good” ever really been an insult? As a black woman, discussions about hair arise way too often… One feature that a lot of women aspire to have is “good hair”. There’s a Chris Rock movie about it too, so check that out. Anyways, as a black woman, you are never told that you have good hair. As simple as that; “black people don’t have good hair”. Beyonce has possibly been insecure about this all of her life and hidden behind fake hair and weaves. Therefore, when her husbands picks a woman with “good hair”, it takes her back to her own insecurities and feelings of inadequacy. I totally get you, Bey. Good hair is not an insult… It’s just describing said mistress in a clever way. The end. Let’s put it to bed.
  3. If a woman wants to write 4 songs about her anger with her husband, why is that anti-feminist? Yeah, I don’t know either… First off, she can do whatever she wants to deal with her relationship. Second, I think it takes a pretty strong woman to come out and say my husband has messed up but I’m working on forgiving him. She could cower and let him walk all over her but she said, “nah- lemons into lemonades.

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So there are a few moments in the video that really spoke to me and I NEED to share them.

  1. A lot of the lyrics are incredible. I made my husband watch the whole thing and he wasn’t impressed so I’m thinking it’s really targeted at women. As a woman but especially as a mom, a few lines really resonated with me.
    In “Hold Up“: “Know that I kept it sexy, and know I kept it fun. There’s something that I’m missing, maybe my head for one” and What’s worse, lookin’ jealous or crazy? Jealous or crazy? Or like being walked all over lately, walked all over lately. I’d rather be crazy.
    She is showing so much insecurity and overthinking it so hard. Stop, girl. I know that as women, we instantly think about what we did wrong but why? It’s just crazy to me that someone who is considered one of the most beautiful women in the world also struggles with insecurity in her relationships. The second part- “I’d rather be crazy”. I know that’s right girl… I think a lot of us would rather look crazy than let our men hurt or embarrass us.
    In “Love Drought”: All the loving I’ve been giving goes unnoticed. It’s just floating in the air, lookie there. Are you aware you’re my lifeline, are you tryna kill me? If I wasn’t me, would you still feel me?
    Like on my worst day? Or am I not thirsty, enough?
    I get so emotional with this one. My marriage is fine but after having a baby and becoming a mother, your marriage changes. This can create so many insecurities in you as a woman. You’re no longer than cute, tiny, young person that your man fell in love with. You are now (well most of us) covered in marks or scars from those 9 months, your emotions and hormones are different. Your priority becomes raising and nurturing a baby. No, your husband isn’t forgotten but he isn’t the only person for you to give your love to anymore. I don’t know if that’s how Bey feels but I can relate to the sentiment.
  2. Moving moments in the visual album
    The entire song and video for “Forward”. Yeah, Bey is moving forward as a wife and woman but most importantly, I think it’s showing the mothers of the slain victims (Trayvon Martin, Eric Garner, Michael Brown- victims of police brutality) moving forward to fight for justice. No, you can never ever forget the hurt and suffering of having to bury a child but these women are showing stoic faces and perseverance as they (we) move forward. This is where I couldn’t hold the tears in anymore… I love cops because I know that we need them but I don’t love when people become power hungry and kill innocent people. It’s a sad time when I have to tell my younger brother certain rules and things to do if he ever gets pulled over or stopped by the cops. Also I love that Beyonce isn’t singing. She stepped back for a moment and I think that’s so significant and beautiful.
    The entire song and video for “Freedom”: I love the beat. I love the intensity of the music. I love Kendrick Lamar. It’s so badass to see the women in the video moving forward in this collective togetherness and this sisterhood. I love that Beyonce is holding an assembly- those mothers on the front row and she’s basically saying, “ladies- let’s rise up”. I think Beyonce really has found solace in sisterhood and herself at this point. I love that there are nothing but women of color living in this plantation type of setting. Several years ago, they would all be servants on that land and now they are creating this sorority almost and owning it. There are so many young queens featured in this video. All of the period pieces of clothing, natural hair, and the black and white filming of this video is perfect. It really is just such a moving and badass part of the video for me. I stared at my baby girl and just thought about how strong of woman I hope to inspire her to be.
  3. Almost all of the monologues in between videos. So much YAS.
  4. THE FACT THAT THE ENDING IS HAPPY. Please stop talking about how Jay-Z now has 100 problems… Clearly, they’re working on their relationship- at least that’s what the ending of the video shows. I love that the women are working together and smiling. The video is now in color. Also, aside from Jay-Z and the pictures of the slain men, men are now included in the video… Thus showing that relationships can be worked on and mended. She is still a believer in love.

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Beyonce has shown so much range in this visual album. There’s a little something for everyone- rock, country, girl power/yas queen anthems, soulful, etc. If you’ve only heard the songs, you should definitely watch the video. She gets really creepy with her words in between video and it’s incredible. Seeing someone so highly regarded show her insecurities basically says that she is human. She’s just like us. No matter how beautiful the world thinks/says she is, she may not feel that way. She was obviously completely vulnerable in creating and releasing this album. She is showing such pride for her culture, her femininity and herself and I absolutely love and applaud it. Now, I know a lot of people may not like it and that is okay! I do encourage you to try and put yourself in another point of view (a victim of infidelity, unfair treatment based on skin color, personal insecurities in your relationships, etc) and then think about the aspects of the video.

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If you’ve seen the visual album or heard the songs and want to talk about it, please comment below (even if you have criticisms). Analyzing things (mostly movies, music and books) has always been something that inspires and captivates me!

My Top 4 Nursing Successes

As you know, I did a few things wrong in the beginning. With a lot of studying (Pinterest), I learned a few tips and tricks to become better at breastfeeding. Click this link to visit my breastfeeding related Pinterest page and from there, you can find related pins to research on your own.

I wrote this post during the early stages of breastfeeding. I am currently NOT nursing (but will be again soon) but I did nurse Baby E for 13 successful months.

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